Honour for whom in killing lovers?
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Koumdi , Chandigarh: Jun 26 2008
Made Popular Jun 26 2008

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The recent incidents of love birds being lynched and hecked to death in the name of honour are not only despicable but call for the most stringent punishment under the law. The cases are reported surprisingly from the modern states like Harayan and Punjab not to talk of any other place. Most intriguing is the complicity of the Panchayats(Village bodies) and the kith and kin of the lovers.

Every person is entitled to the protection of the law and the Constitution and the States reserves to itself the sole right to try offences and decree punishments. If a young man or woman flouts tradition and has an unapproved relationship, no doubt, deeply conservative villagers may feel offended – but they have no right whatsoever to inflict any sort of bodily harm on the “transgressors”.

Panchayats are integral and indispensable to the political process of the states. Far from confronting the Panchayats, every political party bends over backwards to woo them. The Panchayats’ power to deliver votes is indubitable and no politician would dare to fall foul of them.

Infanticide, child marriage, dowry harassment and sati are a part of our “culture”. For educated and enlightened Indians, these are bits of cultural baggage that the country could do without. But it must be borne in mind that India’s educated citizens are in a minority. We have allowed 61 years to pass without adding to the percentage of educated Indians – and now we are distraught by “barbarisms” … barbarisms in remote villages, barbarisms in gang-infested urban slums, barbarisms in state assemblies, barbarisms at the hands of private armies and barbarisms even in lunatic asylums!

In a democracy, the majority rules. Over these 61 years, what kind of majority has independent India created for itself? Its high time we did something to rein in and tame the errant Panchayats and put their ’social audit’ to legal scrutiny and trial by courts to ensure a more responsible, sensible and accountable social order.

In a country of Sufis and Saints who said, “Ishq na poochhey deen-dharam noo, Ishq na poochey zataan—Love doesn’t care for religions or castes,” Why do we still call ourselves progressive if we were not to tolerate such sublime bondages.

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The sad part is no one listens to what Sufi’s have to say...its just the dumb society that matters. I’m sure even those who are killing to save thier so-callled honour are also doing it against their wishes, it’s just to show that they comply by the rules set by the society...which sucks
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There needs to be awareness in this regard and protection from the law enforcing agencies should be claimed as right by the interested parties. . It ofcourse goes without saying that the social change always takes its toll if the society experiencing it does not adapt itself to situations obtaining in.
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Unfortunately we experience a similar traditional anachronism, in the Bedouin community. Young women are killed because of ”family honor,” sometimes with entire families participating in the horrible act. The police finds it very difficult to deal with these cases because the Bedouin community is largely self-governed, and most of its members live in base poverty (so the official care less).
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That is reallly unfortunate...it’s largely the mindset of the people that has to change. Law cannot fo much if people are not willing to abide by it.
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That is why the Ku Klux Clans flourish. When the law makers do not protect it is the vigilante activists that rule the roost.Disillusionment from the authorities so very disgusting and apathy at the hands of ones own is killing.
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Manoj J
shimla, India
I am not surprised that such incidences occur in the modern states like Harayan and Punjab as you have mentioned. These two states happen to be on the cross road, where Indian culture has been at a boiling point throughout history which has given rise to deeply conservative rural settings. I do not approve of honour killings and with changing times, rural Harayan and Punjab need to change fast.
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Honour killing is only as much deplorable as any murder — no less, no more. People kill for greed and lust, and then some kill for perceived honour. No matter how misconceived their notion of honour be, these killings are just killings for just another motive.
Now, the question is to what extent is the motive shocking?
Our views are ingrained in deep individualism. And the desire to kill for honour stems from a sense of collective identity.
The issue needs to be looked into with deeper understanding. Simply voicing protests would not suffice, if we have to get rid of this newborn social ill.
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Nishi Roy
Bangalore, India
Kill her…if she does not comply with the family’s wishes! This is the war cry of people who believe in honor killing. Unfortunate indeed. Would hate to be in the shoes of such a woman, where her own family turns against her, all because she has dared to love/like someone the family does not approve of.
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Its really very sad. I dont understand how there can be a competition between family honour and a life. I feel really sad thinking about those who are killed by their own loved ones. Think about i. You stay in your own house and your parents want to kill you to protect their honour...
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Balbhadra Rana
Rajkot, India
States like Punjab and Haryana might be developed in many ways, but when it comes to honour killings they are very regressive.

The reason is the deeply ingrained concept of ’IZZAT’ of women in these areas. When a girl/woman falls in love, the society mistakes it as loss of honour of the entire society. The rights of individuals to do as one wants as enshrined in the Constitution come last while being faced by the question of loss of IZZAT.

The Constitution says many things, but age old mindsets are difficult to change. Why else would the caste system be so strongly entrenched in Indian society even today?
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